Children and Pessimism

Children need emotional validation, especially young kindergarten-8. If their negative feelings about what is happening in their lives are not validated, they may continue focusing on the negative until they are validated. Children can become pessimistic if they do not feel they are being emotionally heard and validated.

As the parent of four children, I have learned to not skip the important step of emotionally acknowledging my children. Before I realized how important this was, I was eager to try and quickly change their negative feelings and views of their life into positives.

Once you have validated your kindergarten-8 child’s negative feelings, you can give your child a choice: to continue to perceive his/her situation as negative, or to choose to change it to a positive. The first choice teaches our kindergarten-8 children to be victims in a world of random events they are powerless to control. The second choice teaches them they have the power to change anything for the better.

Recently my daughter came to me expressing her negative feelings about a friend’s treatment towards her. I could have quickly dismissed her feelings and encouraged her to not let it bother her, or joined her by saying, “That is terrible! She is so mean.”

I did neither. Instead the conversation went something like this:

Mom: “That is unfortunate, Anne. You must feel really sad about the way she treated you.”

Anne: “I do. I don’t like it when she treats me that way.”

Mom: “I understand. Nobody likes to be treated that way. You deserve to have your friends love and respect you. When you are ready to clear these negative feelings, and would like my help, let me know. Or, you can continue feeling bad. But remember, whatever you focus on in life, you will have more of it show up as your experience.”

Anne: “I want to clear these bad feelings right now and create a positive friendship with her.”

At this point I took Anne through a process called “Emotional Freedom Technique” (see attached) which is designed to clear negative feelings and stressful energies that keep us from progressing.

I have taught my children that the law of attraction, or the law of the harvest (which is that whatever we put out returns to us multiplied) is in constant operation in their lives. If they put out negative thoughts and feelings, they will have more negative experiences show up in their lives. If they put out positive thoughts and feelings, they will have more positive experiences show up in their lives.

Anne understands this universal principle and was eager to clear the negative thoughts and feelings and change them into positives. It was important that her negative feelings were acknowledged and validated first.

Most adults in our world were not emotionally validated. They were emotionally shut down or ignored. As parents we can do a much better job of validating our children’s emotional response to their lives’ events-free of any judgment. Once validated, those negative thoughts and feelings can be easily released and positive thoughts and feelings can be created.

After Anne cleared her negatives, she decided what she wanted to create was a fun-loving, kinder relationship with her friend. She helped put this into motion in her life by speaking what she wanted in positive “I am” statements such as this:

– I am experiencing all my friends respecting me and being kind to me.
– I am respectful and kind to all my friends.
– We have fun together and support each other.
– Things always work out the best for me.
– I am grateful for the love and support of my good friends.

After Anne’s energy-clearing session, she called her friend and easily made amends. Her friend was apologetic, they laughed and started planning their next activity. What Anne had asked for in her affirmations had already begun to show up for her.

Children model their parent’s perception and language about the world. If Mom and Dad are pessimistic, the children often are too. If Mom and Dad are optimists who are willing to validate their child’s negative emotional responses to a situation and then help them change that, they play a powerful role in teaching their children they can have lives that are positive with many successes to look forward to.

Are Electronic Gimmicks Needed to make Learning FUN?

Once upon a time educational toys for children included compact flash cards, spelling games or reading with a parent or teacher. Today free educational games seem like a thing of the ancient past. The educational toys of today seem to cost a small fortune and completely take the parent or teacher out of the picture.

Take a moment to think about the commercials for educational toys you’ve seen this week. Most of them involve batteries, noise and of course lots of fun, but how much learning really takes place when the toy does all the work for the child. Unlike free educational games of the past, these battery-operated educators cost money to supposedly help children advance their learning skills. But are kids really learning anything from these toys?

Some parents and teachers are doubtful that the so-called educational toys of today are doing anything close to educating. Pricey toys that tout learning advantages, such as developing reading, vocabulary, spelling and phonics, may simply be a flop. After all, how much work does a child have to do when the toy reads the sentences, spells the words and does it all while it’s batteries are fully charged? With so many high-tech monster toys on the market, many adults are opting to go back to the good old days of free educational games, where all it took to make learning fun was a great book, an index finger and that all too famous sentence, “See Spot Run.”

Using Technology to Enhance Home School Curriculum

When you think of homeschoolers, a vivid picture of a super woman that is able to juggle everything seemingly effortlessly with smiling, perfect children. Although this picture may seem daunting, don’t let it deter you from home schooling your children. One great way to make home schooling a little less daunting is by using a computer to help you out. Look for home school curriculum that utilizes computers for a variety of different activities. Simply load on a CD-ROM of a math, science or English homeschool curriculum and let it help you through the school day. Not sure how a computer can enhance your home school curriculum? You’d be surprised.

Why not use a home school curriculum specific computer program to administer math tests. Select a program with a variety of different tests for each chapter and let the computer time your child while he or she writes the test on the computer. Then let the computer grade the test for you. While they’re working on this, you can turn your attention to your other child or clean the bathroom. Homeschool curriculum in science and English can be equally as helpful.

Whether you live in the middle of the beautiful country side with no computer or internet access, or whether you live in the middle of the city with technology readily available at your fingertips, keep in mind that no matter how good the home school curriculum, the most important part of your child’s education (aside from reading, writing and arithmetic) is making the most of every learning opportunity available to you. Remember that your children’s best teacher is not the computer, but you. Even if you find the greatest computer basedhomeschool curriculum, be inventive and make learning fun each and every day!

Use Contests to Develop Important Study Skills

When done right, contests are a great way to enhance your home school curriculum. Contests can act as great motivators, develop great research skills and develop character. There are lots of contests available for students all across the country, finding the right contest for your child can be a great addition to your home school curriculum. If you’re homeschool curriculum has a science component that focuses on space, a contest through the space Science Student Involvement Program might be a good place to start.

The motivation aspect can really come into play when students learn about the different prizes offered to contest winners. An all expense paid trip, a cash prize or a grant for university are all great motivators. A combination of a topic that compliments your home school curriculum, healthy competition and a reward are great motivators for increased education. If you’re interested in increasing your child’s motivation, look for regional and national contests that complete your current homeschool curriculum

Choosing contests that require research can greatly enhance your home school curriculum. Students can use encyclopedias, the Internet, local and college libraries and even personal interviews to gain the information they need. This is a great way to include the importance of research skills into your homeschool curriculum, while helping your children work towards their contest goals.

HomeSchooling Curriculum Parallels Expectations from all Students in the District

Education comes in many forms and there are choices parents can make for their children. Most parents select the main stream public school system and some will select the homeschooling curriculum. The homeschooling curriculum will come from the school board and will parallel the expectations from all students in the district. Learning at home does not mean the child can select what to learn or even the parents can. They will still have to follow the requirements determined by the governing body they live under. They will need to report results with regularity and not deviate from the basics defined in the curriculum. They may add to it or supplement it in their own way. They just must meet the minimum as described.

Testing is also a consideration in the homeschooling curriculum. The students will still need to be tested officially to ensure they have been learning as they should. The parents of homeschool children may need to arrange to bring their children to a spot where testing can be done several times a year. Some boards require the testing be done in a controlled environment so that the results will be honest. The goal is to ensure all children have the tools they will need in life before they are finished their education.

A homeschooling curriculum can be a very good thing for a student with the right support. It can allow then a unique view of what they are learning and let their family unit supplement that from their own point of view. In a class room all of the children receive the same interpretation of information and free thought may not be encouraged.

Speed Limits and Safe Driving Tips

Safe driving tips if expanded to cover all aspects of four wheel motoring would fill more than half a dozen books which is a little beyond the scope of an article. It’s also unlikely that the drivers in most need of safe driving tips would bother to buy such a book. After all they know the basics and what more is there to be concerned with? Sorry guys but it’s true!

 

Lets examine then just one crucial aspect of driving skills, that of the importance of Speed Limits and how  you go about adhering to them even when you might not be aware of their existence or the relevant speed pertaining.

 

This article is written from an Irish perspective or more accurately from that of an Irish Driver attempting to alert the visiting Tourist and Learner Driver as to the dangers of life on the road in Australia.

 

IRISH ROADS

 

In Ireland and Britain driving takes place on the left which means that most drivers visiting from Europe or North America could need a little time to acclimatize.

Road construction and layout is not as advanced in Australia as elsewhere although the main road network has improved substantially in the recent past.

 

The same cannot be said for the rural road network in Australia and this is where the greatest difficulties with speed limits will be encountered by all inexperienced and Tourist Drivers alike.

Rural roads are frequently overgrown with hedges and trees that have not been cut back thus hiding the rather infrequent Speed Limit signs. Landowners or householders in the country areas are rather lax in their appreciation of passing traffic and speed limit signs where they exist are frequently completely invisible.

 

 

SPEED LIMITS GO METRIC

 

Ireland recently underwent a change to Metric Speed Limits and during this transition, which brings them in line with Europe but not the U.K, certain previously long established speed parameters were altered.

 

The maximum speed now on an Irish rural or secondary road is 80 KPH which translates to 50 MPH; down by 10MPH which is a substantial and long overdue reduction. Even at 80 KPH one would be exceeding the safety threshold on most stretches of Irish rural road.

 

In contrast, on Motorways in Ireland the new metric speed limit of 120K KPH is clearly visible as you would expect, although most drivers would exhibit a devil may care attitude. Speed limits are there for a reason but do not indicate whether it is safe to drive at that speed. You as the Driver have to use your skill to assess what speed you personally can drive at in any given situation.

 

THE OVERTAKING GAME.

When giving Tuition to new
Learner Drivers we always point out that if you are substantially below the speed limit at any time whether this speed is safe or not, you will be overtaken by reckless and poor drivers. It’s essential to be aware of vehicles approaching from behind when you are at or below the speed limit and try to assess by the body language of the driver whether they are preparing to overtake you.

You can expect to be overtaken by approximately 70 per cent of traffic following you if you are driving within the law or are exactly at the speed limit. This observation also applies to Dual Carriageways particularly, which carry a speed limit of 100 KPH which is about 2MPH more than the previous Imperial speed limit of 60MPH.

On an Irish rural road you can almost guarantee to be overtaken if you are adhering to the 60KPH speed limit (40MPH) which you will encounter as you approach civilisation, particularly if the road ahead is straight! Little or no consideration will be given to the approaching built up area speed limit of 50KPH (30MPH) and the inherent dangers of finding something in your path that requires emergency action.

Safe Driving Tips should be on the driving school in sydney curriculum for all Irish schools from primary level upwards. If this was implemented the statistics of Pedestrian and Young Driver fatalities would see a significant improvement in time. It is the responsibility of all drivers to set an easily recognisable standard and example to all other road users particularly the young.

HomeSchooling Curriculum is Carefully Planned

The homeschooling curriculum is carefully planned and established in most school districts. The school districts will be following guidelines for education provided by higher governments. A homeschooling curriculum does not mean that children can stay home and do what ever the parents want. Even if they are schooled at home they will need to meet the same standards as their peers. The education of children is a responsibility of the government ultimately and it determines what each grade level will require whether at home or school. Parents, guardians and school will need to ensure these standards are met. All children must enter some form of education that meets government standards, law. It is not at the discretion of parents.

When the home schooling curriculum has been established it will be available to any parents that feel they have a reason to school their children at home. It will contained detailed expectations for every grade level and parents will be expected to report results with regularity. They will be monitored at home in the same way as they are in a school building. They will have deadlines and expectations they must reach in order to move on to the next levels. The testing will be supplied to them and be monitored.

A homeschooling curriculum is not an easy task to accomplish for parents or students. It is a commitment not to be taken lightly. Whether parents agree or not, it is their job to ensure their child has an education as described by the school board they live in. Parents will need the time to ensure the standards are met by their children.

HomeSchooling Curriculum Allows Freedom

Following a homeschooling curriculum can allow families one kind of freedom in their lives that attending class in a school building would not allow. They are able to change locations or alter their schedules without conflicting with classroom time. The family can adapt the homeschooling curriculum to their lives and not the other way around. Or if a child has an illness that keeps them away from school for a long period of time the homeschooling can help them to stay current in their lessons. Missing any lesson time can cause a student to fall behind and make returning to school very difficult. Study at home can avoid making an illness much harder to recover from.

When any child is kept out of the classroom in school they must still replace that time with study elsewhere. Children must attend some form of education even if it is following a homeschooling curriculum. In many countries this is the law and not a choice by the parents. The government will have laws established regarding the guidelines and requirements for the children living in their boundaries. Most people realize that a child must have an education but some do not feel the school system is the way they want to go.

Some parents feel they would like to avoid much of the lessons in public school and would like to design their own homeschooling curriculum. They may do this only to a certain point. They will still be required to follow the basic lesson plans and achieve the results with their children that the school boards demand from all.

HomeSchool Curriculum Supervised by Parents

Children are social beasts and usually enjoy entering school and learning with their peers. When this is not possible they may be forced into a homeschool curriculum that is supervised by their parents. The homeschool curriculum will come from the school district and will meet the same learning standards as the children going to school daily will receive. Children may encounter situations in life that prevent them from joining the others in a class room setting. Home schooling can prevent them from falling behind others in their age group and not progressing in life as they need to. It is an organized program and home schooling does not mean that the parents can teach anything they want. The must still maintain the same standard.

Illness may be one reason that puts a child in the position of needing the homeschool curriculum. An extended period of illness can greatly hinder a child’s schooling progress if they are not able to attend class. Help at home with their lessons will help them to maintain their levels and not suffer even more due to the illness. If they are still able to concentrate through the illness they may even welcome the distraction of school work to pass the time while they heal.

If the parents of children move frequently it may be difficult for the children to be enrolled in a local school. Moving can disrupt the learning process and the children may do better following a homeschool curriculum. They will be able to continue their routine and work even if their environment changes. It gives stability to their lessons that they may not be able to get otherwise.

HomeSchool Curriculum for Children who can not Attend Regular Class Room Studies

A homeschool curriculum is one that is provided by a school board for children that can not attend regular class room studies. If for any reason you are not able to place your child in school as required by the laws of the land you are in, you will have the option of a homeschool curriculum. The goal is to ensure that the child receives the education needed no matter what their life circumstances may be. The child may be ill and not able to attend classes daily. Or the whole family may be living in an area where it is not possible to get an education in their mother tongue.

Some parents prefer a homeschool curriculum to ensure they can maintain control over the influences in their children’s lives. They feel that the exposure the children get to the realities of the world may be too harsh or not suitable for them. Learning at home provides shelter from the world and allows the parent to have full control of anything their children learn and are exposed to. This is an issue that many parents will debate and have different views on. Following a basic curriculum will at least provide these children with some of the tools they will need in life.

The homeschool curriculum may make suggestions for social contacts for your children and you should ensure this is carried out. Not all the things a child must learn can be learned alone and social development is very important for them. Sheltering them may keep them safe in some ways while harming them in others.